They say romance is dead. With long handwritten notes from your sweetheart a thing of the past, and technology ruling our lives, what space is left for the old school love stories we now only remember in movies?
Whilst nothing will ever beat in-person together time, romance is still very much alive. It’s just evolved slightly…
More and more people are meeting their other halves on dating apps. In fact, I’d say a good third of my friends have coupled up as a result. We’re even seeing Tinder weddings happening now! Whilst such apps get a lot of stick for being ‘just another hook up tool’, or for judging people just on appearance, they’re really not that different from meeting at a bar. You see someone you like the look of, and start talking. Some might be looking to hook up, some for something more. It’s just the same, except you will tend to meet more (typically…) single folks through an app. What’s so bad about that?
Once a relationship gets going, chances are a lot of your talking when not together will be done texting on your phone. Does this mean we’re disconnected? Impersonal? No, I don’t think so. Instead, we’re able to keep chatting throughout the day and it’s instant. See something that reminds you of your other half? Snap a photo and send it over, and they know they’re in your thoughts. Plus, I love that I can trace back M and my conversations right to when we first met simply by scrolling through whatsapp. It’s kinda fun to be able to watch your story grow.
Modern day life has seen distances shorten, travel become more frequent and long distance relationships become more common. What impact does this have on our love life? Thanks to technology, we can be together even when we’re apart. Whether it’s a FaceTime in the middle of a long business trip, a video recorded at a gig the other couldn’t attend or even a long email written late at night – we can be there for each other, right when it’s needed.
Speaking of being there, last year I’d been having, safe to say, a pretty rubbish week. I had been chatting with M about it earlier that day. A few hours later that afternoon we heard a knock on the office door and I turned around to find a delivery man standing there with the biggest bouquet of the most beautiful flowers. And, they were for me! Though, it did take me a while to work out who they were from given that someone (who has a habit of making this mistake!) had forgotten to write their name on the card… Nope, sadly not a secret admirer! Just my loving boyfriend making me smile on a random day. All doable thanks to whatsapp and online flower shopping.
So, no. Romance most certainly is not dead. Sure, nothing will ever replace real live face time and cuddling up with your loved one after a long hard day, technology is enabling us to connect in new ways that were never possible before. Like all things in life, it’s just about that balance.
Do you have a modern day love story?