I had planned to share all the eats and adventures from our trip to Copenhagen today. But come Wednesday night, when I sat down to edit my photos, I just didn’t feel like it. I was frustrated that the photos weren’t as good as I’d thought, and my motivation flummoxed. After trying to force myself into it for a little while, the penny dropped. I needed to learn to go with the flow.
It’s so easy to end up in a state of trying to control EVERYTHING. Life is chaotic enough, it seems only natural to want to simplify it. But what about when that isn’t really a possibility?
I will always remember my old rowing coach telling me to “control the controlables”, a saying that has stuck with me every since. There is only so much we can do!
Take the photos from our trip, for instance. Yes I had hoped they’d be better but I am still very much a novice when it comes to photography. And that’s OKAY. It’s what we do about it that really counts. I had a great time and a lot of fun photographing my way around Copenhagen and that’s what actually matters. I can’t go back and magic my photos better (though that’d be pretty cool…). What I can do though is control my attitude to it and quit beating myself up over it.
Sometimes you’ve just got to adjust to life’s ebbs and flows. I’m sure we’ve all been in scenarios where we’ve been finding exercise far more challenging than we used to, something that I’m personally experiencing at the moment. When we’re younger, we typically have a much stronger capacity for a high volume of intense exercise – when I was a teenager I was training up to 11 times a week for rowing. Now? No way josé.
These days, I’m happy if I work out twice a week. I’ve got a lot of cr** going on in my life right now which leaves me absolutely exhausted. For some time I was getting frustrated that I wasn’t achieving what I was once capable of. And then I realised – nobody is putting this pressure on myself other than me. We are our own worst critics.
At some periods in your life you’ll be able to do all the things, and that’s great! At other times, getting through the day is more than enough. And on other occasions, you’ll be somewhere in the middle.
It’s really all about developing that self-awareness, to understand where you are at and what you need. This may be easier to do at some times more than others, and that’s okay. Just adjust, keep learning and eventually you’ll get to go with the flow.