There seems to be something about December that makes it go by in a flash. From festive holiday parties and get togethers, to glorious visits from family overseas, it can feel like life is a little non-stop at times. Enough to exhaust even the hardiest of Christmas lovers.
It’s no surprise that January can seem a bit blah in comparison. The festivities are over, friends and loved ones are headed back home and we’re bombarded by a storm of ‘new year new you’ bullshit advertising. It’s enough to make even the most positive of people feel a little bit crappy.
So what to do?
One step at a time.
Whilst I’m a great believer that a new year brings the chance to turn over a fresh leaf and refresh our goals and directions, it’s nigh on impossible to do it all at once. The other day, whilst at my dad’s house in the country digesting my Christmas dinner, I found myself looking forward to the year ahead. Quite unusually for me, I felt a great desire to get out my new notebook (thank you very much Santa) and write down my goals and intentions for the year.
I felt that, come January, I would hit the ground running. New ideas in hand and fresh from the Christmas break, surely I was ready to take on 2018? Ha. Slim chance of that.
January 2nd saw me drag myself up out of bed, into the darkness, to stumble to the office half asleep. It was day one back at work and already the #JanauryBlues had hit like a tonne of bricks. Great. It was then that I realised, we don’t have to do it all at once.
What if January was the month that we laid the foundations for the year ahead? Instead of trying to transform everything overnight, we could work things out one step at a time.
Just like our habits ebb and flow as we grow as humans, our strengths and abilities adjust with the seasons. Or so I believe at least.
Winter sees much of the natural world enter a state of hibernation, preparing for the warmer months ahead. Historically, shorter days meant less work could be done outdoors and life slowed down as we readied ourselves for the hustle and bustle to come.
This is my approach to January. I am taking the month to be kinder to myself, to add in more self-care and less self-pressure. To remove the expectations and just go with the flow. When quiet nights of nothingness are needed, so be it.
It’s okay to be slow sometimes. If we tune in with our bodies they’ll get us soaring off again soon enough.
Find your tribe.
Finally, life’s a lot easier when you’ve got a group of people around you who just get it. The ones who will respond to a random late night message when you just need someone to hear your voice. The ones who will always always show up when the going gets tough. The ones who simply understand.
I’ve seen a lot of Intagrammers lately talking about unfollowing those who no longer serve you, and I couldn’t agree more. If someone’s account is triggering unsettling emotions for you, it’s okay to hit that unfollow button. The same goes for real life, if somebody isn’t there for you, if they don’t show up or make you feel inadequate when they do then hit that virtual unfollow button. Life’s too short not to.
The same goes for following those who do serve you. Find a new community, one that fits with your intentions for the year. Whether it’s online or in real life, having the right tribe of people not only makes achieving your goals a heck of a lot easier but it also means that you’ve got people to hand who understand what it’s like when life isn’t going to plan.
This is why, this week, I’ve joined in with Wholeheartedly Laura’s Wholehearted 7 Day Challenge, which focuses on upping the self-love and tossing out the detox bullshit whilst in a fun and relaxed community environment. Laura was my health coach back in the day, and one of the most inspirational women I know, so I really can’t recommend her enough. I know it’s Tuesday now, but I’m sure she’d be more than happy to welcome you on board!
So there you have it, my January survival guide. Like always, life is a work in progress so I’ll keep you updated on how it goes from this end too! How do you like to beat the #JanuaryBlues?